Couples Therapy
Could couples therapy enhance your relationship? Is your partnership in need of guidance and restoration?
Are you...
- In love with your partner, but can’t seem to get along
- Feeling ignored, invalidated, or isolated from your partner.
- Wondering if the challenges you are facing in your relationship are resolvable or if it’s just time to let go
- Getting caught in the same fight day after day with no resolution
- Recovering from infidelity or an affair
- Feeling like your sexual relationship has lost the passion you once had
- Feeling alone in your relationship because your partner is emotionally unavailable
- Preparing to get married and want to make sure you have a strong foundation and are starting off on the same page
We are never so vulnerable as when we love.
— Sigmund Freud
Marriage can be a safe haven, a secure base, a place to call home, or it can be fraught with heartache and disappointment. Oddly, it can, for some, be all of those at once. When we first get married, we really don’t know how our relationship will grow and change over time. For many, experiences of loving connection ebb and flow; for some they seem like a mystery. Truth is, most of us never gained an education in how to be in a long-term equal partnership. And each individual and partnership is so unique that there is no one-size-fits-all approach.
Create the kind of relationship you dream about
However, the strength and security of your marriage has an impact on every facet of your life. When your relationship is going well, life is full of color and opportunity. When disconnection hits, everything can seem dark and grim.
Fortunately, there is a way to learn how to create the kind of love relationship that you dream about. Relationship therapy can be a great step to get you there. Would you like to take part in a soul-filled exploration and growth process that can help you to give and receive the kind of love that can bring out the best of both of you?
Life Impacts All Relationships
Long-term love relationships go through phases. It begins with infatuation and excitement, as it moves into longer commitment, and sometimes marriage and parenthood, the dynamic changes. Feeling alone in a relationship is a common aspect of an evolving partnership. Children have a profound impact on our ability to keep a close connection. And even if we manage to figure out how to keep that connection, we will eventually need to start over again when our children move into adulthood.
So man factors may impact our connection, including health issues, depression, anxiety, and addiction. Differences in career goals, sexual desire, dietary preferences, political views, and religion can come between us. The truth is that there’s no such thing as a perfect match.
But these differences don’t have to result in distance, and can even bring richness and depth to a relationship. Learning how to move past the surface issues and access the deeper desires of the heart can help us live with wholeness and strengthen our love and connections.
When both partners are willing to engage in the work of therapy a powerful energy and strength can be created. And in truth, even when just one partner chooses to do the work, a relationship can change for the better. Heartswell offers a clear roadmap from heartache to discovery and meaningful connection.
Couples therapy at Heartswell can help you find a new way together
WE BOTH WORK, HAVE YOUNG KIDS, AND SIMPLY DON’T HAVE THE TIME FOR MARRIAGE COUNSELING.
When we allow our connection to slip away and don’t address it, trust and love erodes over time. We feel lost, we give up things we once loved. We even can slip into depression, anxiety, and addiction as a way of managing our pain. The pathway forward to bring our struggles honestly and openly to the table take ownership of how we feel and what we want.
EFT Couples Intensives
Experience 3 months of therapy in 3 days with our EFT Couples Intensive options. Our Intensive is designed for couples who need in-depth work to break unhealthy patterns, repair attachment injuries, recover from betrayal, and more.
Our Modalities
The Heartswell model integrates the research and wisdom of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy as well as body-based somatic and energetic modalities. Sex therapy, as needed, can also be an important aspect of treatment. This integrated approach provides healing for the whole person, from the mind to the body. Incorporating the body is critical since so much of our emotional regulation, or dysregulation, takes place in our automated nervous system.
Additionally, we may draw upon The Gottman Method. Or, depending on the couple, we may explore how known or unknown spiritual aspects may be able to inspire greater connection in your relationship.
Roadmap for Healing
Our model follows a clear roadmap with three phases: Awaken, Restore, and Connect. In the Awaken phase, we become aware of ignored or suppressed thoughts, feelings, and desires, shedding light on unhealthy patterns like numbing or blaming. The Restore phase involves reclaiming our essence and committing to wholeness. Finally, in the Connect phase, we use our newfound wholeness to build a love relationship that provides the safety and security we seek.
I am considering counseling for my relationship, but I still have some doubts…
I THINK THAT WE SHOULD DO INDIVIDUAL THERAPY INSTEAD OF COUPLES COUNSELING.
In some cases, individual counseling can help couples be more productive in therapy. If you choose to do individual therapy for depression, anxiety, addiction or other issues, we recommend doing couples counseling concurrently. At Heartswell, you have access to individual and couples therapists who are part of the same dynamic integrated team, and we can help you determine the best course of treatment.
I Don't have the time.
Many couples, especially living in Arlington, VA and the greater Washington, D. C. area, are in the same boat. It’s hard to conceive making a weekly commitment and having yet another thing take away time from the kids. But this short-term investment can have a long-term impact. You can grow stronger as a couple, as individuals, and create a more grounded, healthier home for your children.
We offer flexible early morning, daytime, and evening appointments for your convenience. Many couples choose to take off of work at a set, weekly time so that they don’t miss out on precious opportunities to relax and enjoy the family.
We also offer concentrated 3-hour or 3-day EFT Couples Intensive Therapy that compacts months or days of counseling down to hours.
I DON’T THINK IT’S WORTH THE MONEY.
The healthier and more whole you are as an individual and as a couple, the better you’ll be able to navigate finances, career goals, and planning for the future.
In an effort to give everyone access to healing we offer low cost options, budget friendly workshops, and packages. You can also read here to know what questions to ask your insurance about coverage.
Couples Counseling is an investment in your future life satisfaction. Neglecting recurring issues can result in more costly problems including divorce, health issues, and unhealthy and costly ways of dealing with pain.
The healthier and more whole you are as an individual and as a couple, the better you’ll be able to navigate finances, career goals, and planning for the future. Also consider that the cost of an effective course of therapy can equate with the cost of a 10 day vacation. Take some time to consider the long-term benefits.
