The thing about being human is that we are not meant to do this alone. We are not meant to live life feeling like we are by ourselves, or that we have no one to turn to. I have always felt strengthened by the bonds in my life, and the community that has surrounded me. Those bonds are what compelled me to become a Marriage and Family Therapist, as a way to help others feel less alone, and help people strengthen the bonds in their life. However, what I learned throughout my own journey to becoming a therapist is that we all have patterns of interactions that can get in the way of building the meaningful and supportive relationships that we crave. We all do our best with the information and examples that have been given to us, yet sometimes we can get in our own way. We work hard, and we often try to put our best foot forward, yet we can feel that even when we are trying our best that sometimes it is just not working out. With that expanded awareness about how people experience relationships, I allowed my passion for human connection to lead me to a specific model of therapy. This model of therapy embraces the human experience, works to reduce shame, and avoids playing the ‘blame game.’ That model is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I decided to become trained in EFT so that I could have the best opportunity at creating a safe space for my clients, and especially for the couples, I was working with. EFT is at the foundation of my work as a couples therapist, and it has created a safe ground for me to stand on when I am working to support couples. I have found that EFT also allows me to remain curious with my clients and couples regarding their own experiences, emotions, and patterns of relationships.